Sunday, December 13, 2015

Baby Talk

I always had a plan in mind for how I wanted things to go if we were ever blessed with another child and each day God looks down at me and chuckles as he finds a way to humbly remind me that I don't get to plan anything in life.

I was going to have my dream VBAC no matter what doctors tried to pressure me into. But guess what? Baby Cruz will be gracing the world with his presence at the end of January via repeat c-section.

I was going to set up a strict savings plan to prepare for maternity leave by putting 100% of my husband's earnings in a savings account and eliminating eating out completely. But guess what? Ray broke his finger on the job in July and has been out of work ever since and I have an insatiable craving for Taco Bell at least twice week.

I was going to be a bad ass and give birth in Mexico to save my husband the experience of seeing his son for the first time via Facetime. But guess what? The birth would cost about the same in Juárez without insurance as it will in El Paso after insurance but in Mexico payment is expected in full before you leave the hospital with your new bundle of joy. Oh, and let's be honest; I am scared shitless to have a major surgery South of the border.

So life doesn't always work out like I plan it. What's new, right? Despite my seemingly constant complaints, this pregnancy has gone relatively well. I haven't gained any weight yet, which is perfectly normal for a plus size pregnant person and baby's growth has been right on track. I do have some issues with hypertension which have been controlled by medication so far. Oh and a little nighttime carpal tunnel and acid reflux but who's keeping track, right? Little Ben moves constantly, maybe 10 times as much as my first born, so I already have a feeling he's going to be a little spitfire. The nurses have referred to him as un vago on multiple occasions as he wiggles around while they try to chase down his heartbeat at my regular OB visits.

His room is finally ready to go, and I think he is one lucky boy. We have been blessed beyond belief by my girlfriends who have not only been insanely generous with their baby's hand-me-downs but they also threw me an awesome baby shower a couple of weeks ago at Las Malas Companias. Thanks to them Ben is all set up with a crib, stroller, play yard and car seat and his dresser is stuffed full of clothes! Between their generosity and the few trips I've made to Goodwill and Once Upon A Child, this boy is set.

To be honest, I'm actually pretty proud of his nursery set up. I'm not much of a decorator but I think I did pretty well. We found a dresser at one of the tianguis by our house for only $20 and were able to paint it to match the crib my friend Annalisa gave us. Then I got a little inspiration from a nursery I saw on Pinterest and went from there. I had Ray paint an old bookcase and table lime green and then I made some curtains to tie everything together and voilà!


Aside from a few last minute items, I think we are pretty much ready for little Benjamín's arrival. There are still some logistics that need to be worked out when it comes to his health insurance but that won't be able to be arranged until he is born. We can't afford to add him to my policy at work (which would cost nearly $400 USD a month) and do not qualify for Medicaid or CHIP because we live outside of the US, so we are opting to purchase his insurance from a provider in Mexico once his Mexican birth certificate is issued. I'm pretty nervous about that whole process but am trying to have faith that it will all work out the way it's supposed to.

Sort of the same faith I'm trying to have about Ray becoming a stay at home dad. That's been the hypothetical plan since we first moved to Mexico as it just makes sense financially. My earnings potential in the US is so much greater than his is in Mexico so the decision seems like a no-brainer. But that's easier said than done, I suppose. He has had a rough time all these months he's been out on disability but we both imagine that staying home with baby will feel so much more rewarding than staying home twiddling his thumbs while waiting for medical clearance to return to work. It can be a tough pill to swallow for any man to have his wife be the provider so it certainly won't come without it's challenges. That's where that faith comes in again...

I suppose that's a big part of parenting though, right? Good intentions and a whole lot of faith?

Wish us luck.


  1. Life happens when you are busy making
    The nursery looks gorgeous!! I love the colors...

  2. the nursery looks great!!! and it sounds like you're doing great!

    I am due in about 2 weeks and I think I have reached my breaking point of tired of being pregnant. I have had carpal tunnel since august that has gotten progressively worse, my hands hurt soooooo bad, all day everyday. other than that I feel fine but I also have gestational diabetes and have to give myself insulin injections 4 times a day. honestly it's not nearly as bad as the carpal tunnel though. I also hadn't gained any weight up until about 2 weeks ago when I exploded and I want to eat everything in sight all of a sudden.

  3. My baby was wiggly in utero, and he took his first steps at eight months and was walking by ten!!! Your hunch may be right ;)

    I am super lucky to live in a country where we have maternity leave - I took the leave offered by my job, and my husband took the leave offered by the government. He loved being home and was better suited to it (and better at it!) than me! It was the BEST thing - he gained so much confidence in himself and his parenting, and he and our son are so close for it. FWIW, I think every couple I know both here and in the US the woman makes more; AND my husband ran into a lot of stay-at-home-dads here. It's what all the cool kids are doing ;) at least here in Sydney!

    Congrats & Good luck!!

  4. Much luck and yes, things do work out.
    What a beautiful nursery for a boy who will be so loved.

  5. Emily,
    You inspire me so much each time I read you blog! You are truly a great woman! My husband is in Mexico as well while we wait for our 601 to be processed. It's been more than 2 yrs since he left and you give me so much hope. I'm so thankful I came across your blog. You are so right we don't get to plan anything in life! Your nursery is beautiful. I'll continue to pray for your growing family. ����
    Best wishes,

  6. Best wishes for the happy event and a safe birth! You do know that your baby will be born with both citizenships, right? When you get his Acta de nacimiento para un mexicano nacido en el extranjero, you'll be *documenting* the Mexican nationality he is entitled to from birth through his father.

  7. The room looks incredible - congrats! How difficult is it for you to bring items from the US to your house in Mexico? I'm in Brazil and it's always a gamble as to whether the government is going to hit us with hundreds of reals in taxes or not.

  8. LA FE MUEVE MONTANAS <3 y sea como sea Dios no nos pone una cruz que no podamos cargar asi que vamos que siempre siempre con FE todo se resolvera, btw el cuarto esta hermoso... I love you so much and I'm proud of you