tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post5821438302015286541..comments2024-03-28T00:16:12.772-07:00Comments on The Real Housewife of Ciudad Juárez: DefenseEmily Bonderer Cruzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-91388277702135481932013-10-16T18:03:11.028-07:002013-10-16T18:03:11.028-07:00My thoughts exactly. Thank you for your kind words...My thoughts exactly. Thank you for your kind words Mimi!Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-21104801849083479402013-10-13T19:59:58.092-07:002013-10-13T19:59:58.092-07:00Emily, the internet can bring out the best and the...Emily, the internet can bring out the best and the worst in people. And comments added to a blog or article are often the worst. Those people who said Mexican women hate you--how do they know? My guess is, they are angry at the world for their own issues, and they are taking out their anger on your internet person. Don't give them a moment more of your brain power. They are not worth it. Take inspiration from the good comments, use constructive criticism when it's available, and ignore the bad. Life is too short to waste time on negative people.Mimi Minskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16366915403077470876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-70307484008110712442013-10-04T12:01:57.179-07:002013-10-04T12:01:57.179-07:00Oh my goodness!! I love your blog!! I think what t...Oh my goodness!! I love your blog!! I think what those critical readers don't realize is that you aren't trying to push an agenda. You're telling the story of your life and sharing it with a larger audience. And, I'm sorry, but a life story isn't something that an audience can dictate to the person living it. I'm honored that you allow us glimpses into your life. Thank you for writing!JennieLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00278654294465923200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-71608876430720166652013-10-03T13:32:41.961-07:002013-10-03T13:32:41.961-07:00I love your candor. The love and esteem you have f...I love your candor. The love and esteem you have for your husband struck me immediately and it seems to shine through in all the posts I've read so far. Both of you are blessed to have found each other. I only started reading after the NPR show and though I can relate to your situation on some levels (I live outside the States and my husband is not a US citizen), the fact that you are so open about your struggles and your past that brought you to where you are now is so refreshing and deserving of respect. I can't speak for anyone but myself: I really enjoy what you write!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01940864424553144823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-50502704064851105282013-09-27T18:24:26.465-07:002013-09-27T18:24:26.465-07:00Love, love, love this article. So much and on so m...Love, love, love this article. So much and on so many levels. And ademas, written by a journalist that I respect on so many levels. Thank you for emailing it to me this morning because I still hadn't read it!Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-44083731739134790582013-09-27T18:22:39.108-07:002013-09-27T18:22:39.108-07:00No worries, I don't hate. Only wrote the blog ...No worries, I don't hate. Only wrote the blog so that I can be better understood. And the readers labeling people as haters are just defensive. I don't think they want me to hate, so to speak, but many of them have been following my blog for years and have a lot of emotional investment in it because they have or are going through the same situation. <br /><br />Thanks for the comment and LOL on Valerie Bertenelli! :)Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-75623526357193259952013-09-27T18:20:14.447-07:002013-09-27T18:20:14.447-07:00Thank you! And thank you for going back and readin...Thank you! And thank you for going back and reading all the posts. I know it's a lot, and certainly too much to ask of people, but without reading it all, I don't think anyone can really understand this situation or me or what this blog is all about. Mil gracias :)Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-45390717803290349252013-09-27T18:18:58.985-07:002013-09-27T18:18:58.985-07:00Thank you, so much. I appreciate it.Thank you, so much. I appreciate it.Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-62806091697130554602013-09-27T18:18:18.051-07:002013-09-27T18:18:18.051-07:00I hope it moves quickly for you amiga. I can't...I hope it moves quickly for you amiga. I can't imagine how difficult it is to be apart so long :/Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-46773283865133205002013-09-27T16:14:36.256-07:002013-09-27T16:14:36.256-07:00https://twitter.com/AvoidCommentshttps://twitter.com/AvoidCommentsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-64528505278636292962013-09-25T14:28:57.260-07:002013-09-25T14:28:57.260-07:00I saw this article today and thought of your revie...I saw this article today and thought of your review of The Bridge, http://www.grantland.com/story/_/id/9717676/as-season-1-fx-bridge-winds-author-lived-juarez-takes-issue-s-portrayal-borderelizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05567355668096997885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-52339589914034431362013-09-25T14:11:18.440-07:002013-09-25T14:11:18.440-07:00We are not sure yet. I think it just all depends o...We are not sure yet. I think it just all depends on how the visa process goes. if it takes too long, I will be back in Mexico. I am hoping it doesn't take as long as we expect.<br /><br />I will be going back to Mexico in December for the last 2 weeks of the year!! I can't wait. I wish I could go in November for our anniversary. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07094398763672345801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-28978353262555345212013-09-24T10:08:50.163-07:002013-09-24T10:08:50.163-07:00You know Emily, your lite is your life. I enjoy re...You know Emily, your lite is your life. I enjoy reading your blog and I can't wait to see it as a "movie of the week"! Valerie Bertenelli has to play you!!!!! People who have concern about your portrayal of Juarez and your husband talk to them and ask them why. They might show you a different side to your story. Don't hate. Love, love, love. Be leery of people who label people as HATERS. They want you to hate. Our Lord Jesus Christ said, LOVE EVERYONE <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-58006942780602955812013-09-24T09:45:58.374-07:002013-09-24T09:45:58.374-07:00I started reading your blog after listening to you...I started reading your blog after listening to your segment on NPR's This American Life and was immediately hooked. (I actually went back to the very beginning and read each post!)<br /><br />You have an incredible way of expressing the hardship of change, relationships, friendships, finances, and cultural differences in such a real, yet positive, way.<br /><br />As a Mexican-American, as someone in love, as a person with money worries, as the daughter of a once-illegal immigrant, as a WOMAN, I find ways to relate to each of your posts.<br /><br />Stay positive. Ignore the haters - they're just sad about someone/something else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-81092960727124933612013-09-24T08:57:23.509-07:002013-09-24T08:57:23.509-07:00Hi Emily - I saw your story yesterday in the news ...Hi Emily - I saw your story yesterday in the news and just wanted to let you know that as a Mexican woman, I do not find your comments or your convictions insulting nor are they demeaning to your husband. I strongly admire you for taking such a gutsy step and live in Ciudad Juarez. Many people in the US do not have a sense of what its like living in a city as Juarez, and you will encounter many people that just have a close mind and are not even interested in knowing your experience, because in their minds they have already decided without knowledge of fact. So just keep up the good work, may God bless you and your husband and please, keep on writing. Thanks for giving Juarez a fair chance. :)mexagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05176824592311250392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-55292275111504138182013-09-23T19:30:38.214-07:002013-09-23T19:30:38.214-07:00Awww thanks Steph! I know you're having a hard...Awww thanks Steph! I know you're having a hard time being back in the States. Did you decide that's the plan long term?Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-23012975616353111592013-09-23T19:04:05.662-07:002013-09-23T19:04:05.662-07:00I meant Keep it up, Amiga!! :)I meant Keep it up, Amiga!! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07094398763672345801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-90772614538848361022013-09-23T19:03:00.975-07:002013-09-23T19:03:00.975-07:00Emily, I think you are awesome girl!! You show the...Emily, I think you are awesome girl!! You show the good and the bad of Mexico. I lived there for 3 years and so want to go back. I am jealous, but only because I am not there with my husband. I love you and your blog! Don't let all of these people get to you. <br /><br />I think you are awesome! I have seen so many blogs come and go in the past few years since I found yours and a few others. Like I told you before, your blog is what gave me the strength to stick around in Mexico when my life felt like it was falling apart around me. I have to thank you for everything you have posted, the good, the funny, that bad, and the sad. You show life as real and not some fantasy land that certain people like to make it out to be. <br /><br />Keep ti up, Amiga!! HugsAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07094398763672345801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-82020608004658073962013-09-23T12:20:31.711-07:002013-09-23T12:20:31.711-07:00Okay, I am just going to say this one last thing, ...Okay, I am just going to say this one last thing, and then I'm done with it. I agree that if someone does not like my blog, that doesn't make them a hater. I agree 100%. Which is why in the past, when people have torn me to shreds via email about my blog, I never brought it up. These people are not saying they "disagree" with my blog. They are saying I am using my husband, that he is a disgraceful example of a Mexican man, that I infuriate Latinas, etc. These comments are directed towards my character and the character of my husband. They were not critiques about the quality of the blog or whether or not it is interesting to them. They were hateful insults towards myself and my husband. THAT is why I reacted, THAT is why you can see all of my readers coming to my defense and THAT is why people are so quick to yell "hater."<br /><br />Giving a critique about the subject matter or quality of my writing is what a critic would do. Telling me to "go back to Gringolandia," is what a hater would do.<br /><br />With that being said, I welcome critiques on this blog. I have no qualms with people who disagree with me, I in fact welcome it. You can ask any of my friends. I enjoy a good debate, even more so when I learn something and find out I was wrong. If you take the time to read my past blog comments you can see there are plenty of times that people disagree with me and I have always welcomed their opinions. However, I feel a little bit different about hateful comments that attack my character. After all, this is just a blog about my family's life, it's not a documentary or expose on Mexico or Juarez.<br /><br />And that is all I have to say about that.Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-1375107135706196742013-09-23T12:07:53.087-07:002013-09-23T12:07:53.087-07:00Thank you! And yes, if someone wants a daily homic...Thank you! And yes, if someone wants a daily homicide count, they can go pick up a copy of the PM. Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-59946114061905682842013-09-23T12:07:13.219-07:002013-09-23T12:07:13.219-07:00Thank you. And I think that's really what'...Thank you. And I think that's really what's frustrating for me. It is just my blog. Just my little public diary. I never claimed to be a spokesperson for Juarez or for expats or anyone else. I'm glad you got that :)Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-90591416152964757622013-09-23T12:06:08.220-07:002013-09-23T12:06:08.220-07:00Thank you so much Breezy!Thank you so much Breezy!Emily Bonderer Cruzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02536825702643241250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-17190999090593790472013-09-23T09:16:51.620-07:002013-09-23T09:16:51.620-07:00Just because someone disagrees with her blog, it d...Just because someone disagrees with her blog, it doesn't make them a hater. This is the playbook of the right wing. Call everyone who doesn't agree with you a hater.Just saying. I personally like this blog, Thank you. Real Housewife of JuarezAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-77160877658158849312013-09-23T07:53:24.012-07:002013-09-23T07:53:24.012-07:00Yikes. You have definitely been trolled. Yay for t...Yikes. You have definitely been trolled. Yay for the internet, giving angry and unhappy people a place to anonymously abuse others for 30+ years... I doubt anything you wrote is true, but is definitely designed just to wound you. I have a friend who grew up in El Paso. His parents are immigrants from Mexico. When he was growing up, everyone used to go to Juarez to drink in the bars (and generally head over there all the time). Every El Paso high school school had their own designated bar. Anyway, he is by no means in denial about Juarez, but chooses only to tell stories about the good things there. Like you, he feels that there is enough BAD about Juarez circulating, and he'd rather highlight the things he loved there. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459207290594790398.post-37643393594007587532013-09-23T00:01:47.771-07:002013-09-23T00:01:47.771-07:00oh my!!!! and here I thought this was just a blog...oh my!!!! and here I thought this was just a blog! <br /><br />ok, WTF???? of course it's one sided, it's a blog, not a documentary. This is just your opinion, your life, your experiences... or am I missing something? just like any other reader, I read your blog because I want to. No one is forcing me.<br /><br />Let me tell you, I am a MEXICAN WOMAN, born in D.F., raised in Tijuana and now living in the U.S., and I am not offended one bit by your blog... or your language, shit I find it refreshing & honest. <br /><br />I married a Mexican and dealt with the immigration issue. It sucks. I commuted to Tijuana from L.A. every weekend for 15 months, and had a hard time. I was raised there, still have family there, I speak Spanish fluently, so my hat is off to all the men and women who make this situation work!<br /><br />I am no longer dealing with U.S. immigration crap, because I am no longer married to him. I don't live in Mexico any longer. I am not dealing with most of the issues you are, but I enjoy your blog and thank you for sharing YOUR perspective with those of us who WANT to read it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com